You’re Not Meant To Always Be Happy

Gary Keller, founder of the largest real estate company in the world, says that if you ask people what they want in life, they’ll probably tell you that they want happiness.

Happiness seems to be what most people demand and strive for in life, but it’s also what most people understand the least.

Ultimately, most of our actions and behavior is intended to make us happy, but happiness doesn’t work the way we think it works.

In the book “Civilization and Its Discontents,” Sigmund Freud says,

“We are so made that we can derive [happiness] only from a contrast and very little from a state of things.”

Happiness is when needs are met to a high degree. Therefore, they can only be brief experiences. This is because when any desired situation is prolonged, it only produces a feeling of mild comfort.

What this means is, in order to feel happy, you have to first feel unhappy. You must first experience the pain of hunger to experience the joy of eating.

This is because to be continuously full on food would rob you from the pleasure of eating the food you enjoy.

Ask yourself, would you want to never feel hungry again for the rest of your life? At first, this may sound amazing, but would you really want to?

The reason we struggle to find continual happiness is because happiness is a contrast.

Too many people try to pursue happiness, and they overindulge in what they think will make them happy. But overindulging in anything will guarantee that you won’t find any happiness.

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7 thoughts on “You’re Not Meant To Always Be Happy

  1. Interesting post. Never being hungry – great analogy. Well if we have too much food all the time we would get bored. Variety is the spice of life, and I guess happiness would follow suit – that is variety.. Newness. We need to experience life in all its forms, we need to be challenged, when it become easy it becomes boring. Having it all is not happiness. Have faith in our abilities and in life, pushing out of comfort zone, newness, variety, change …… all lead to happiness.

    I believe we are all entitled to happiness. But over indulging is not the answer – that would get solidly boring. Variety and newness and working on ourselves.

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