If everyone has the assumption that people who are not innately talented at something, such as sports, academics or music, are never going to be good at those things, then those who don’t excel at something right away will be encouraged to try something else.
The individuals with poor hand eye coordination and slow reflexes will be pushed away from pursuing sports.
The individuals who can’t hit a note are told they shouldn’t do music
And the individuals who don’t do well in school are told that they’re just not good at it.
And then, not surprisingly, those assumptions become true.
The individual who was told to not pursue sports never becomes good at hitting a baseball or catching a football.
The individual who was told he wasn’t naturally good at playing an instrument never learns to play an instrument.
And the individual who was told they weren’t good at school ends up thinking that’s just who they are and as a result, they never try hard in academics.
Assumptions about individuals talents as well as misconceptions between the ideas of talents and skills become a self-fulfilling prophecy for many individuals.
On the other hand, the individuals who are given more attention, praise, support and encouragement from their parents, teachers, mentors and coaches end up developing their skills far better than the individuals who were told to try something else.
When it comes to becoming an expert in something, the early stages of learning a skill are the most important. During this time, it’s important to have people who support and encourage you because if you’re not able to maintain your initial interest and motivation while you try to build those new skills and habits, then you never will.